You should not expect people to do for you, you should do for you! Expecting other people to do for you will only set you up for disappointment, and nothing else. Nobody owes you anything, and if you think they do, you should talk to them about it to make sure you are on the same page. Next to being disappointed, you will be waiting on other people to take action, and you should own the responsibility for your life and be the person to take emirate action. So that takes us back to focussing on what you can control, you cannot control what other people do for you, let alone how they do it – and if you are like me you don’t want anything less than the best possible for yourself. Now lets be honest here, it is the easy way out and it might be the preferred way to go for you right now. It could be it’s copied from your parents, it could be you have taught yourself this technique for living, but you don’t have to stick to it unless it has brought you everything you have dreamt of and more. If it works for you, it works, enough said and you can stop reading here.
As soon as I made a conscious choice to not expect anything from anybody, and started action toward what I wanted to achieve, I noticed a difference immediately. The energy I used to spend on dealing with the irritation and frustration of not getting what you want when you want it is gone. I don’t have any bad feelings or blame anybody for not doing for me, it’s for my own account. I know you will feel better about yourself and your journey toward your goal from the moment you start, I did. Another great advantage is you don’t experience all that negative energy, which will drain en deplete you very quickly. You will experience a positive and constructive energy that will help you set yourself up for succeeding what you set out to do. Even with your direct family, loved ones and friends, no expectations. Little goes a long way remember, small steps every day accumulate to huge steps over longer periods of time.
The fun and personal fulfilment part start as soon as you start giving and doing, without expecting anything back in return. Just help people, take some time and effort out of every day and help somebody. It can be a small gesture, but it can mean the world to the person you offered your help to. I think of houw they must feel, and how I would feel if they would do for me. How grand a gift it is to offer a little bit of your time and effort and not expect anything back in return. Instantly you have made two people happier, you have enriched two lives, including yours remember, and in my opinion that is a good habit to have.